October 2016 Editor's Note: Here's Why You Can't Be Afraid To Fail
Way back when, I used to let the idea of failing be the forerunner in my decisions. There would be times of heavy indecisiveness with even the simplest of decisions that were big or small merely because I feared if I could not completely see light at the end of the tunnel, I automatically thought I was not ready to drive. The fact is, in some of those cases I probably wasn't ready to fire up the engine, but the unfortunate part is I never really allowed myself to see what kind of horsepower I might have been working with on those occasions either. But boy when I tell you, the few times I did allow my internal drive to push through on the pedals of where I needed to go, were enough to bring me to the realization that I was ready to demolish any odd feelings of failure because the results of going with my gut often drove me way out into a beautiful sunset I could have never imagined in a million years.
Lesson: Fire that fear of failure because whatever is meant to be will be, and whatever does not work out for you, simply is an experience that will make you stronger and wiser than the rest (that decided never to try at all). Often, we allow fear of failing to choke us so up that we exhaust to the point of never even giving things a try. Yeah… I gave most of those kinds of feelings up a while ago. I have gone after jobs that shocked the hell out of me by saying, "yes, you are hired!" I have also gone after jobs that unfortunately did not get a chance to experience my greatness (wink), and never answered me at all. And then, there are jobs I have walked away from because the idea of going after my wildest dreams became more important than getting "the same ol’" bi-weekly check.
You can fail 1000 times, but all it takes is one amazing win to change your life forever. Also note, your courageousness is going to be a key player in that. I can't imagine what I would be doing right now if I allowed all the... ("Well, what if it doesn't work out?" "What are you going to do if this doesn't happen?" "How is that possible, if it hasn’t been done before.") types of "failure driven" questions back me out of going for what I really wanted. It would be an insult to all my talents and capabilities.
Let's not insult all of our amazingness by limiting the priceless living sprees we have been so generously given to enjoy.
Plan, pray, prepare and cash out! - Click to Tweet!
Jacqueline Laurean Yates
photo credit- Makeup Savvy